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Don’t Tell Me What To Do

Since starting my training in Positive Psychology, I’ve been bombarded with all sorts of helpful suggestions about what I ought to do to make myself happier. “Make a daily list of five things you’re grateful for,” or “meditate every day,” … Continue reading

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A Hole in the World

I came across Portia Nelson’s wonderful “Autobiography in Five Short Chapters” recently and wanted to share it here. It encapsulates perfectly the challenging and often painstaking process of changing our most entrenched and destructive patterns of mind.   “There’s a Hole … Continue reading

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The Neuroscience of Change: More Cause for Compassion

If you’ve ever wondered why it’s so hard to make lasting change, you may find comfort in knowing that one reason is human biology. Neurobiology, in particular. That’s not cause for despair: because with sustained effort and support, our brains … Continue reading

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Finding Joy at Work

I joined a meditation group in my neighborhood recently, and the other night the teacher’s talk was about Joy. Joy. It’s not something many of us tend to think about much. We focus on getting work done, on what’s annoying … Continue reading

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Skip the New Year’s Resolution

New Year’s resolutions seem to me like a recipe for disaster. Another commitment you make to yourself that you inevitably end up breaking. I’m going to exercise every day, or lose weight, or cut out alcohol, or always be nice … Continue reading

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Tweaked Out On Twitter

After a couple of days of Twitter frenzy last week, I came down from my high and felt a bit sick – not unlike the aftermath of a sugar binge or a hangover. What had I just done with my … Continue reading

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Why Can’t Cops Communicate?

The video of Eric Garner being choked to death by a group of police officers on Staten Island is horrifying for lots of reasons. But one I haven’t heard talked about much is the fact that the police who confronted … Continue reading

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Birdman and Turkey Day

I finally saw the move Birdman, and I can’t recommend it enough. From the first to the last scenes, it’s an amazingly beautiful, provocative, dark, funny and even uplifting movie, in a weird sort of way. I won’t give anything away (here’s a good … Continue reading

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The Snark Defense

Sunday was graduation day for my coaching class. As I boarded the Q train to Manhattan, I was half dreading it. We’d all been asked to make a short presentation about what the program and our colleagues had meant to … Continue reading

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Respect Yourself

I was at a company retreat a while back, one of those two-day events where management spends a lot of people’s time and the organization’s money having people participate in getting-to-know you exercises and breakout groups designed to make employees … Continue reading

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